attachment explained
What is it?
For me I have three major types of attatchments to characters. IRL, OCD, and F/O. Here's what they look like for me.
IRL
An IRL is a form of delusional attatchment where I identify and perceive myself as a character. These attatchments come with a variety of things such as: phantom pains, memories, phantom limbs, seperation, feelings. They cannot be controlled. This form of attatchment is used to cope with stressors. These already have a section for boundaries.
OCD
This is one of the most important ones to be cautious of. OCD attatchments come off as an obsession with a character. This obsession can cause me harm depending on circumstance. Things such as seeing others say "I'm _____ biggest fan" or anything along those lines are things that can and will send me into a spiral. This is not a delusion, this is a disorder.
F/O
F/O or fictional others are characters I view as my partners. Because of that I can act very defensive about them. I find a lot of comfort in these characters and deal with a lot of seperation from them. As a result I have a tendency to treat them with a lot of love depending on what mindset I'm currently in. This could very well look like obsession, but this is entirely different. These are tied with my IRL attatchments.
Do's and Don'ts
do's
Talk respectfully
Ask polite questions
Listen
Be careful of which is which
Avoid harmful statements
Be genuine
don'ts
Try and get reactions
Call an attatchment unfair for others, I can't control these things
Make me feel guilty for having an attachment in the first place
Tell me I need to seek help
Mean comments towards characters I've attatched to
